New Quiz!!!

07Aug08

Hi Everyone!!!

I just posted a new sorority quiz. It’s silly but really fun. It helps you determine which completely broad “stereotype” you would fit into during rush. Granted, the houses are made up of such an eclectic group of girls but there are some that may have certain reputations for being one way or another. If you’re bored at work all day like me, take the quiz! It’s fun and you’ll like it… i promise. Don’t take it too seriously though.

Hmm… Speaking of Stereotypes….

Oh and Ps. I’m not going to be posting for the next couple of days because I’m going out of town. I’ll be back with more Rush info within a couple of days. Now that I’m leaving you have a few more days to finish your homework. When I get back you better have everything together though, seriously.


I just posted a new page on how to regulate your Facebook profile. If you haven’t cleaned up your profile yet, do it now! I’m not allowing anyone to take the easy way out and make their profile’s private. You need to have your Facebook public during this time and make sure it looks good. Please?  Click on the new page to find out everything you need to know.

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I’m assuming that many of you are rushing but don’t really understand what you are getting yourselves in to. I will give you a little inside peek into what Greek life is really like, so when rush comes around you will have lots to talk about/ ask questions about.

We hang out at the beach

Many Chapters will host some sort of athletic event to support a certain charity organization. At my school, a fraternity would host a week long competition of athletic events to support cancer research. During rush, if you are a sporty chick- that is great! In the Greek system it can only work to your advantage to be athletic. We want girls who are good at sports because we want to win!

If you are in a sorority you will most likely hang out with guys who are in fraternities, but we also hang out with lots of guys that aren’t. It’s really up to you.

We will go on mini- weekend vacations to a lake or to the beach. These do not happen at every school but at many schools they do! They are sooooooooooooooooo fun!!!!!!!!!!!

We will go on date parties to the mountains and spend the entire weekend skiing and snowboarding. Also another fun perk of being in a sorority is that usually the Sorority girls get invited to these parties and don’t have to pay a thing! Free vacations? sign me up.

We do lots of sisterhood activities. Just little games and what-not. People think they are really lame at first but we are so competitive, we end up taking these games super seriously.

At many schools the fraternities and sororities will have parties together with a certain theme. If you love Halloween, being in a sorority is like having Halloween at least once a week! Here we are on our way to an “Around the World party” where you have to dress up like a different country.

Whoo! Hotties. I know I will never be alone on Valentines day because every year my sorority and a particular Fraternity will have a Valentines day party together! Can’t you just feel the love?

One of my favorite theme’s is WTF… which stands for “What the F***?” You basically put on the most random clothing you can find so when people see you they are just like, “wait… wtf?”

Does this give you an idea of what to expect? If you think all of this looks really fun, yes, it is. It is the best decision I could have made in my college career and I hope that you will do the same! Every school has different activities, and rules, and traditions… so why not ask what your school’s Greek scene does. Steer clear of “name dropping” and “booze talk” but if you want to know about all of the fun parties coming up… ask! The sorority sister will be more than happy to enlighten you.



Don’t Laugh.

30Jul08

Many women drop out of rush after day three which is “theme day.” Many schools do a skit this day, and many schools do not. A skit is when the sorority members basically do a little song and dance to make you want to join their house. Here is an example of what a skit is like that I found on youtube. I need to warn you that it is pretty cheesey, but realize that they put lots of time and hard work in to doing these skits. Make sure to desensitize yourself now so you don’t start cracking up in the middle of theme day because although it’s super silly… the sorority girls take it so seriously. Watch this video like 10 times, and you’ll be stone cold sober for when the actual day comes.


Get Fresh

29Jul08

Can I say something insensitive right now? Don’t be mad. The only reason why I write this is so you can be prepared. Rush is not very concerned with “inner beauty.” I wish I could paint a rosy picture of it for you, with girls holding hands and swaying… but then i would be lying. Here are some ways to pimp your self so that your inner beauty can be reflected in your outer beauty.

1) Hair. If you dye your hair, get it freshly dyed again for rush week. I’m not a big hair color-er but I’ve heard my friends talk about roots. Apparently they are bad so my advice is to not have them during the week. This is also not the week to decide to go brunette, or black, or pink, or whatever. If you want to take any huge beauty chances, I recommend you do it later. Get a nice trim and make sure you know how to style your hair properly.

2) Makeup. It is best to go very natural during this week and be careful with false eyelashes. You have no idea how many I have seen fall out throughout the week. If you don’t know how to wear make up I recommend you visit your local shopping mall and get your make up done to figure out what looks best. If you don’t wear make up you probably should… at least for this week.

3) Body. If you’re feeling kind of like a lazy summer bum I recommend hitting the gym. I’m not saying that you need to be thin, or skinny, or whatever. I am saying that people who work out on a regular basis are more confident in social situations. People who work out are less likely to be insecure with their bodies and minds. I suggest working out on a regular basis not to get thin, but to get confident. EYE of the Tiger BABY!!!

4) Image. I know I keep harping on this but- clean up your facebook!!! ahhhh!!!! As I said before: if you have a good facebook with cute pictures of you and appropriate wall posts, it can only work to your advantage. If yours is private, and we are choosing between you and another girl who’s profile isn’t private, she will most likely get chosen over you. Optimize the fbook Profile! It can only help you.

5) Nails/ hygene. Your face should be waxed and clean. Your nails should be manicured and if you can’t afford that at least make sure they are well groomed. When I say clean yourself up I mean it! Get in that shower young lady!!!

6) Stuff happens. Be prepared. I can’t tell you the amount of weirdness I have seen throughout rush week. I’ve had girls literally dripping with sweat, smelling really bad, food in teeth, etc. If you know that there is an unpleasant quirk about you (we don’t have to get in to specifics) please be prepared to handle it so it doesn’t affect you negatively. If you know after a certain amount of time something about you just… isn’t right. Make sure to prepare for that, just in case. I don’t want to be super gross so we’ll just leave it at that.

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I have noticed that many of you have enjoyed my sample sorority letter of recommendation. Here is another template you can use to write a fool proof letter of rec that will knock the socks off of any VP recruitment. I give you full permission to plagiarize as much as you would like.

Dear Sisters of __________,

I am a member of the delta delta chapter of Delta Nu from UC Pasadena class of 2009. I am writing this letter on behalf of Kate Smith, who has been a very close (friend/sister/cousin) of mine for the past (5/10/15) years. Kate Smith is a wonderful woman who exemplifies everything a Delta Nu should be. She was very involved in high school and was Ms. Pasadena her junior year of high school. She was also on the Volley ball team and was very active in Student government as well. She was on the prom planning committee and was involved in the gifted student’s program at her high school. Kate is not only a fantastic student, but one of the nicest and most vivacious girls I know. She is always there for her friends and is very well liked amongst her peers. She is a very loyal person and brings light and life to any social situation. She has a good head on her shoulders which is why I am certain she will make an excellent addition to your chapter. Kate Smith is an outstanding young woman and I am positive she will wear the letters of Delta Nu with loyalty and pride. Thank you for your consideration.

Sincerely,

You.

Here is a picture of Kate:

Source: senior girl pics


I noticed that many of you have inquired about conversation starters/ways to prepare for rush. If rush were basketball, conversation would be like dribbling (I’m not that great with sports metaphors, sorry). Here are some ways to hone up on your conversations skills:

Keep eye contact: Stay engaged in the conversation at hand and try to not look around the house at other things going on. Stay present in the conversation, don’t have a staring contest with the girl, but stay engaged. When people are constantly looking around the room and paying attention to other things, it not only makes the person seem uninterested in the conversation at hand, but it’s also kind of rude.

Body Language: Even if you are the most shy person in the world, open up your body to the girl you are speaking with. Do not cross your arms, lean back, or look bored. Body language is so important. If you are at a house that you really, really like, my advice would be to sit up straight and lean forward a little bit. When you are having the best conversation of your life are you slouched back in your chair? no! You are upright, excited, and animated. No slouching, crossed arms, open legs, leaning back, etc. Unless you don’t want to be asked back.

Smiling: When you greet a girl make sure to smile. We like girls who are having fun and are confident. Smiling shows that you are not only having a good time, but smiling makes you look more friendly and approachable. Make sure to smile and shake the girls hand you are meeting, smile and perhaps shake it again when you leave. Sometimes, in rare situations, there will be a hug involved, but not usually until later in the week.

Smile!

Common interests: When I enter a room, I prefer to approach a fellow female by asking her a question about herself. I recommend you do the same because people (especially girls) love talking about themselves. Although the Sorority sisters are trying to get to know you, they will also appreciate it if you get to know them as well. A conversation has to go two ways, so you need to keep up your end by asking questions to the sister as well. This is not a job interview, this is a conversation. You get to talk just as much as she does. Have questions in mind when going to a specific house.

To start a good conversation:

Tell something about yourself to give the sister cues on things you are interested in.

” I am having such a great time today… I’ve met so many cool people… I’ve been waiting to come here all day!” – the sisters love it when you compliment their house.

” I love your (hair/make-up/jewlery) it reminds me of this (whatever) I saw when I was shopping around in Spain this summer”- Tie in a compliment to something interesting you have done.

” So did you have this crazy of a time moving into the dorms?” – tell her something about you so that she can feel comfortable talking about herself.

” Rush reminds me of trying out for the school play last year. I was so nervous but at the same time I had so much fun!”- tie in your past to what’s going on right now.

Things to Avoid:

Heavy Topics: My dog just died, my boyfriend broke up with me, my parents just got a divorce, my family member just died, any death at all for that matter. You can talk about these things later in the week if you feel you have really connected with someone.

Gushing about a house: OH my god I love this house I want to be in this house please please please let me in! I need to be here!- this will be super awkward for you unless it’s Pref night.

Talking about another house: The last house I was at was sooooo amazing! The girls there were so cool and I had the abosolute best time ever!!”- we don’t want to hear about how much you like another house. We hate all other houses during this week.

Bragging: “Well I’m a professional surfer… and my whole family is professional surfers, I’m a model, and I won an academy award.. so whatever”- ew. We hate girls who are full of themselves.

Talking about how much money you have: “I have like a closet specifically devoted to jeans. I have so many designer jeans and nice clothes I made my daddy build me another closet!” – no talk of money. it’s shallow and boring.

Basically you want to be asking the sister and talking to the sister just as much as she is talking to you. Do not bring up anything negative about yourself and stay positive, smiling, and engaged in the conversation at hand.